Reply to Mean girls mean moms

Forum Index » Elementary School-Aged Kids

Reply to "Mean girls mean moms "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't give them an opportunity to be mean to you. Ignore them![/quote]

x100000[/quote]

Come on. Don't be ridiculous. When your kids wants to join in a game at recess and the other girls say "NO!" and run away from you how do you ignore that? Is your solution that the kid who just wants to play should know their place and never even ask? Just sit there on a bench alone? No.[/quote]

This reads like you really want your kid to be in the “in crowd” and are fighting reality. 2nd-3rd grade is old enough for kids to flock towards people they enjoy spending time with. [/quote]

Can we agree to ignore this PP? Saying it’s ok for 7 and 8 year olds to be left out at school because others want to only play with kids they “flock towards” is insane.

Kids don’t have any choice over whether or not they are at school! A certain level of kindness and inclusion in a compulsory education environment should be required and expected by parents.[/quote]

Girl, you are literally telling other posters to ignore me because you don’t like my messaging. You may need to go back to elementary school and get your head on straight. Practice what you preach! don’t hate the player, hate the game![/quote]

She is telling people to ignore a bully.  
  If you want to engage in this behavior and teach your kids to write mean notes or make fun of kids for having special needs, then go for it.

No one has to listen to you tell us why it’s okay.  
[/quote]

You’re projecting. No one is saying that behavior is okay. [/quote]

We are talking about:

- Excluding other girls 
- Making fun of other girls or boys (verbally or in notes/pictures that are passed around the classroom) 
- Telling kids not to play with or be friends with certain girls or boys.

Many people are saying that it’s okay, developmentally appropriate, and that it isn’t really “mean.”  [/quote]

And their moms are doing this to you also, as per the OP? Means girls and their mean mom? [/quote]

What do you think, pp?  What’s your experience with girls who engage in this behavior?  
Are their moms volunteering at soup kitchens and trying to reach out to recent immigrants to teach them about PowerSchool?

[/quote]

Yes.  I literally never had another mom from school be “mean” to me.  [/quote]

I haven’t either.  I’m an attractive UMC white lady.  Not a lot of people are mean to me.  But I can recognize when they are mean to other people.  [/quote]

By doing what? Not saying hi at drop off?  Not letting you bring the Frankenstein cookies to the Halloween party and telling you you have to bring the gross candy corn instead?

[/quote]

More or less.  Maybe I will be talking to another mom, and a third mom will come over to say hi, and the person I’m chatting with will literally turn her back or walk away.  
Or instead of putting out a sign up sheet or having the teacher send an email about volunteering for the Halloween party so anyone can participate, they only invite their friends.  
Or gossiping about how another mom is dirty or gross in some way.  
Or having a school party or fundraiser and only advertising it to certain people so the less desirable people don’t show. 
[/quote]

This would honestly not register with me at all as mean- except the gossip.  But I wouldn’t sit around talking long enough to even hear gossip, maybe you shouldn’t either [/quote]

What if the people who were being mean were white, and the people being excluded were black.  Would it register with you at all as racist?  
I will copy and paste the examples:

- I will be talking to another mom, and a third mom will come over to say hi, and the person I’m chatting with will literally turn her back or walk away. 
 
- instead of putting out a sign up sheet or having the teacher send an email about volunteering for the Halloween party so anyone can participate, they only invite their friends.
  
- gossiping about how another mom is dirty or gross in some way.

- Hosting a school party or fundraiser and only advertising it to certain people so the less desirable people don’t show. 
[/quote]

Would not give any of these a second thought.  Why are you stewing about some dumb volunteer list? Or someone turning around and talking to someone else? Who cares[/quote]

I’m not stewing about it, but I’m not oblivious to it either.  
I mean, let’s be clear.  The moms who are not invited to volunteer at the classroom Halloween party and aren’t invited to the adult Halloween party that is supposedly a fundraiser for the school are either poor, brown, fat, too religious, or dealing with mental illness of some sort.  
You really don’t notice this?  You’re just like, “Look, Katie and Jennifer and Kristen are friends from cross-fit and they go to Starbucks every morning after drop off and live in the gated community together.  They just don’t really know Kavitha and Margaret-Mary, so that’s why they never ever ever talk to them.”  
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics