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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP has it not occurred to you that the 15-year-old teen is closer in age to a legal adult then your elementary schooler? [/quote]

I don't get this argument, did you only play/hang out with kids your exact age growing up?  Growing up we hung out in our neighborhood with kids in a wide range, so 11 and 15 isn't strange to me [/quote]
I grew up in one of those neighborhoods where the kids all hung out too, but there were not 11 year olds hanging out with 15 year olds. That is a 6th grader hanging out with a HS sophomore, not happening.

It sounds like OP invited the whole family, which she didn’t realize included a 15 year old, so next time she can plan accordingly. The family, as new acquaintances, might have also told the teen the whole family was invited so she needed to come this once. [/quote]

It's also different if the kids have known each other for a long time - cousins, family friends, neighbors etc. Not an 11yo and 15yo meeting for the first time at someone's home dinner.[/quote]

What the girl did was fine, OP. You really only wanted the younger kid and parents who match your kids' age, so invite on a non-custody weekend or don't socialize. To try to pathologize this kid is mean and out of line. [/quote]

OP may have been rigid in her expectations but she’s not wrong to point out this is weird. Normal teenagers do not want to hang out all evening with random middle aged adults, and many posters on this thread sound defensive bc maybe their own kids have developmental issues and would do that. 
She doesn’t have to be with the younger kids either but talking on the phone with her own friends, staying at home, or at least asking her dad if he can take her back home in the middle would have been normal.[/quote]

Omfg. So now staring at a phone is considered the developmentally normal thing to do and a teen who can sit at a dinner table and converse with adults is the one with developmental issues?

Wow. Way to make yourself feel better about the fact you aren’t teaching your teens proper social skills. Good luck to them when they enter the workforce [/quote]

NP. I mean, I was a 15 year old pre-cell phone, but I would have rather scratched my eyeballs out than sat around listening to old people talk for 4 hours (and I was an only child, too!). If I had been dragged to this dinner, I'd have brought a book, and found a cozy spot immediately after eating to while away the hours, or better yet, bounced to meet my friends. This girl is unusual, there's no question about that. [/quote]

Agree - I would love a few hours of book reading or watching tv.  Talking with adults for hours is very strange.  That said, the OP has a right to be a tad bit annoyed for wanting some alone adult time, but since kids were invited, she can't be overly annoyed that it really happened.  [/quote]

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