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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP your problem isn’t whether to relocate.

It’s that your DH is unhappy and you don’t seem to notice or care.

You’re focusing on the wrong thing. Hope you’re prepared to ONLY have your job in life.  You say you love it and that’s important since you’re likely to lose your spouse and best friend.  Hope it’s the best job ever!  [/quote]

How about her happiness, she can’t just sacrifice everything for him, especially because the marriage is not great. 
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And so he should just be miserable for the next 15-20 years?

I don’t think there is an answer here. Rubicon was crossed and one party is going to be really unhappy at the end.  Probably the child.

I get the posters saying he needs to make his own happiness here but I also get the posters saying life is too short to live somewhere you don’t want to be. [/quote]

Sure. But why is OP the one who needs to give up where SHE wants to be here?

You don't get to make it all about you anymore once you marry and have kids. You can't just decide that YOU need to be in the woods, so now everyone needs to be in the woods, all the time, no matter what they want.

I feel like OP is trying to navigate this in the context of a relationship she doesn't feel totally secure in - which I could see arguing for either approach. Quit your job and move to the woods in a leap of faith about the relationship - or hedge and stay put while seeking compromises that won't leave you without the things that DO feel happy and secure. You can't really say either approach is totally right or totally wrong here, can you? [/quote]

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