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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's become impossible to discuss/research what's best for children because you will be accused of being anti-woman, anti-parent, elitist, etc. for even asking the question.

I was in govt. subsidized daycare from 2 months because my (incredible, devoted, thoughtful) parents couldn't afford anything else. It makes me livid and defensive to think that anyone would judge them for their choices. But this isn't about them—it's about what's the healthiest option for children 0-2. And I don't see how anyone can argue that long hours of institutional care from early infancy is ideal.

The PP is right that there should be wiggle room in our national and household economies to allow parents to at least work part-time during these short but critical years. But that would break the binary of sahm v wohm that has become an essential way modern women define themselves.[/quote]

The research on this is very mixed. People are going to react when someone says you don't care about children if you believe in daycare for young children. My guess is, that is the intent of these inane comments.

The reality is that taking years out of the workforce, a burden that will mostly fall on women, is often very very bad for those women in terms of their careers and long term financial security. Of course, I'm sure you have some anecdote about how you overcame this and therefore everyone else should. The fact remains that women are vastly overrepresented among elderly people living in poverty and their caregiving burden us a big part of this. Paid parental leave will not change that meaningfully especially if you are talking about 1+ years career slowdowns or breaks. You basically dismiss this reality as unimportant based on very mixed evidence from observational studies about the impacts of daycare on children. The reason you are being cast as anti woman is because you are anti woman, just admit it (and yes a woman can be anti women, women are often the worst of the anti feminists).[/quote]

shes anti-woman because she calls for better national parental leave policies??  that is completely irrational.  You don’t speak for the majority of women in the US and in fact that is the opposite of what we are saying, most women strongly feel we need more parental leave just as PP states.  And why do the dads get a complete pass in your ’reality’, why shouldn’t they be expected to take on a greater caregiving share?   You are just an enabler for the corporate profit patriarchy, in a developed country with the least parental leave in order to further enrich mostly white male ceos and shareholders.  That does not make you pro-woman, sister. [/quote]

She's not simply calling for paid parental leave, which I support. She's saying a part should take years out of the workforce fully or partially. And while some of those parents will be men, most will be women. It's not that I support the patriarchy. It's that, unlike you, I acknowledge that it exists. You are very transparently twisting my words which makes it all the more obvious how anti woman you are. You have no real solutions to the very real problems I identified, nor do you have an answer for why you put so much stock in such mixed research. The only answer is that you hate women.[/quote]

DP.  Glad you followed up with this, as your trolling to this point was well-done and subtle (so I didn’t catch on until this last post) and I was getting concerned that any reasonable person could possibly think this way…[/quote]

So this is your way of saying you DGAF about millions of elderly women living in poverty. Okay. Glad you are taking a stand on that.[/quote]

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