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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]On all of my Dates, I request completely separate checks In Advance. I find the only women who object to it are Liberals. Isn't that interesting.[/quote]
That is interesting, considering conservative women typically have more traditional values and appreciate gender norms more. I highly doubt they are fine splitting the bill with you (and frankly I agree with them - gentlemen always pay on a first date).

Then again, you're probably an internet troll whose most recent date was his hand, so. [/quote]

I am “a liberal woman” which means I believe in equity.equality I guess. Part of equity in male/female is recognizing our unequal economics and also I happen to sort be dating in a transition era from “men earn and pay” to “women are starting to earn more”. I don’t happen to be a high earner so it’s kind for the the other person to extend themselves as a gesture of appreciation warmth respect for my existence. If I was the much higher earner I would pay. In fact when I’m out with friends who i know earn less than I do, I often treat for lunch/coffee break etc. it’s just normal warmth and etiquette that’s hard to quantify. It’s just being nice!!! Sheesh people. [/quote]

I’m a higher earner female PP. I do treat my friends who I know make less. But I won’t pay for a man on dates unless we are exclusive. It’s just no way I’ll open my wallet and offer to cover the dinner. It’s his expense dating a variety of women, period. I know that [b]I’m not dating any other men by the time he invited me for a dinner. [/b]But he (in my experience) might be still in active search well into 2-3 months with me (even if already physical with me ). Men play dating dirty particular on OLD. Most of them have a “backup” lady or I’m the “backup”. Thus I won’t cross subsidize this behavior. This is totally different from treating friends. Men you date are not your friends, by far! Many I seeking to use your good gestures and it takes time to separate seeds from chaff.

Btw my first dates are always free to men (a coffee, a park walk, a board game etc). I never accept dinner invites right away as I want him to decide on options first.

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This is just dumb. You should always keep your options open; men certainly are. [/quote]

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