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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP: Clearly, you are all using different definitions for the word "spanking." Some of you say they were like swats, or stings. Others say their spankings were abusive beatings, causing pain, terror, and mental anguish. Those are two very different things. They will have very different effects on a child.

Did the spankings not hurt much? Were they infrequent? Delivered with love rather than anger? Did they leave marks?Were you sobbing in pain, laying in a puddle on the floor afterwards? Did you no longer feel safe in your own home? Did you know inside you that you deserved the abuse?

Yea. Different things.[/quote]

I have had some spankings delivered with love….but not from my parents.

I am shocked how many people jump to assuming kids who aren’t spanked are poorly behaved. Just because you are a lazy and bad parent doesn’t mean the rest of us are too. [b]I have never spanked my child and they are very well behaved[/b]. [/quote]

Great. So your one and only is well behaved and did not require spanking as a form of discipline. All children are not alike, even those raised in the same home with the same parents and same rules. One child may require a stern look. Another child may require a sit down and conversation regarding actions and consequences. The third child may require the first two options plus removal of pleasurable activities. And the fourth child may require all of the previous actions with no success. One of those children may require a good swat before s/he becomes that well-behaved child. Different strokes for different personalities. [/quote]

No children require spankings. Sorry you had more kids than you could handle. [/quote]

I have one child. Yes he was spanked. Yes, his college is fully funded. No he will not need it for undergrad because he received merit aid. I think he turned out pretty damn good, spankings and all. It is too bad you do not understand logic. [/quote]

Sorry parent, but you just don’t get it.

Abused children are often high and over achieving perfectionists who do incredibly well professionally. And their mad spanking parents love to take all the credit for it. When the same kids are falling apart in middle age as their own parenting journey triggers all their internalized anger from how their parents mistreated them, suddenly mad spanking parents don’t have any responsibility. If you visit the forums for parents whose kids have estranged from them, you’ll find lots of folks just like yourself who know absolutely nothing about how their children really feel about years of spanking and shaming humiliation.[/quote]

Huge +1[/quote]

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