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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I honestly don't get this excuse-making. Maybe I'm crazy but I would never give up my parenting time because I "felt alienated". And I would be willing to live in an awful apartment with roommates, be on food stamps, work two jobs, whatever it took to live nearby. If I only got the worst parenting time, if it were only orthodontist visits and 5 am crew practice l, I'd be there. If I couldn't get parenting time, I would be at every public event. If my ex hates me and tried to make my DC hate me, I still wouldn't give up. I really don't understand people who give up trying to have a relationship with their kids.[/quote]

You choose a bad spouse. Mine does all that and more, including the five am sports.  [/quote]
Did you even read the post you quoted? Your response makes no sense.[/quote]

The post is complaining about every day parenting tasks.  The things we all do.  [/quote]

You totally missed the point. [/quote]

No, I did not.  Both mom and dads do those things every day.  Your ex may suck but there are lots of dads who do all that and more.  It’s sad you hate men so much and are raising a son who is going to pick up on your nasty attitudes.

You don’t seem to get that [b]if a mom moves, mom may not want dad involved if she has a new partner.  She may want to hide the affair and pretend AP is dad.[/b]  Not all men can just up and quit to chase around mom and her AP every time they move.

Not all moms will allow dads even their visitation time let alone extra time to go to school events, activities, etc and will tell the schools dad is not allowed and some schools follow the court order, some mom.  [/quote]

Who gives a flying eff what the mom wants?

Are you really saying that if your spouse moved your kid out of state with an AP you’d just give up? Prioritize keeping your military career over your relationship with your kids?

If so you’re a garbage parent and person. [/quote]

You think you can just walk away and quit and give your two week notice?  It doesn't work like that.  And, it's often not easy getting a job outside the military as the career fields are not transferable which means you need to retrain or get a different degree.  You think Dad should just up and move every time mom moves and chase her and hope she'll allow a visit?  How would he pay child support an alimony if he quit his job?  Then, you'd complain he was a deadbeat. [/quote]

There is nothing I wouldn't do for my kid. [/quote]

So, you’d get court marshaled and go to prison?  [/quote]

:roll:  :roll:  :roll:  did you even read the post I was responding to? If not, please do that.

Yes, I would get retrained and move across the world if necessary to be near my kid. No, I would not kidnap the child. Does that compute better with your little brain? [/quote]

I'm not the pp you are responding to, but you're insults are revolting and uncalled for.

In the military, you can't just quit whenever you want.   If Dad is stationed at Ft. Hood in Texas and mom decides she wants to move to Seattle, Dad can't just put in his two weeks notice and move to Seattle too.   If he has 3 years left in his contract, he has to live where the military tells him for the next 3 years.   That might be Ft. Hood, it might be on Okinawa, it might be in Germany....The point is, he has no choice.[/quote]

So what happened when the Dad asked the family court to intervene and stop the move? [/quote]

Courts give dad visitation and have them split plane costs.  Mom refuses to let the kids visit and courts just reprimand mom and tell her to do better.  She still refuses and court still just tells her to allow visits.  When he’s out there judge gives additional visits which she refuses.

Courts rarely do anything. [/quote]

Maybe in this instance but I seriously doubt you have knowledge of what "the courts" routinely do. Lawyers practising in this area disagree with you which should tell you that you're wrong. [/quote]

Actually I do.  A lawyer can say what ever they want but lawyers are usually a big money grab and not helpful or make things worse.  Tell me what would a judge do?   [/quote]

How do you know? Because your BF told you while trying to make himself look better?[/quote]

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