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[quote=Anonymous](1) Reasons for girl's silent treatment are unknown
(2) Regardless of (1), the behavior is rude and unfriendly; it's not neutral
(3) Some hurt as a result of the rude and unfriendly silent treatment is normal
(4) But the EXTENT of hurt and upset OP's DD is experiencing seems to have far exceeded the normal level, and her inability to move past it is also not normal at this point; it's all excessive and indicative of a child with social anxiety -- the type where you need everyone to like you.  
(5) The EXTENT to which OP personally seems to be irked seems excessive too (although I guess it's more about the mom).
(5) More importantly than (5), the OP has not handled well her DD's unhealthy level of hurt/need for this girl to like her.  She has encouraged, or at least allowed, her DD to continue to try to engage the other girl.
(6) For her DD's sake, she clearly should have -- like 6 months ago -- told her DD that not everyone is going to want to talk to you or even like you, and that's truly ok, and then told her not to continue to try to engage with the girl/ignore her.  Allowing/encouraging her to continue the engagement has fueled her own DD's anxiety.

Should she say something to the girl's mom??  So, I personally would not because that sounds fraught with opening an exhausting can of not-worth-it worms.  It also seems like the ship has kind of sailed.  But I guess reasonable minds can differ on this.[/quote]

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