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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reading through these replies, I’m curious:

Would those of you who find the email creepy/threatening/evidence of instability feel the same way if it was NOT anonymous?

Also curious if the equation changes if it was sent by a classmate or a parent, and whether it was sent to OP or to her DD.

I’ve just been surprised by how many posts seem to find the letter threatening or some kind of violation. I do think it’s unorthodox, but like OP, I don’t find it threatening and it reads like a desperate effort by a teenager to address a really upsetting situation. Not even saying I assume the letter is a definitive description of the situation (IME these situations rest a lot on individual interpretation and there are often no truly bad actors, just a series of poor choices). But I didn’t read it and think OP’s DD was in danger. At all.[/quote]

I am one of the PPs who found the letter creepy and threatening.

If not anonymous and sent by a peer, no, I would not find it creepy or threatening. I would redirect to school counselors immediately and I’d talk with my daughter. I understand teens that are still learning and sometimes don’t know how to handle situations. My concern would be getting help for the other child and making sure my child was not bullying. A non-anonymous email like that from a child would not be creepy or threatening.

If not anonymous and sent by an adult (for instance mom of another girl), I would be very worried about DDs safety and consider it a threat, but not creepy in the same way (it is the anonymity that makes it creepy). I would be worried that she had run into a parent like the convicted moms linked earlier in this thread. The florid language combined with lack of specificity is very alarming coming from an adult. I would be taking steps to ensure my DDs safety. [/quote]

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