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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reading through these replies, I’m curious:

Would those of you who find the email creepy/threatening/evidence of instability feel the same way if it was NOT anonymous?

Also curious if the equation changes if it was sent by a classmate or a parent, and whether it was sent to OP or to her DD.

I’ve just been surprised by how many posts seem to find the letter threatening or some kind of violation. I do think it’s unorthodox, but like OP, I don’t find it threatening and it reads like a desperate effort by a teenager to address a really upsetting situation. Not even saying I assume the letter is a definitive description of the situation (IME these situations rest a lot on individual interpretation and there are often no truly bad actors, just a series of poor choices). But I didn’t read it and think OP’s DD was in danger. At all.[/quote]

Pp from 12:20. In my opinion, it would not be creepy if it wasn’t anonymous. It would be in the range between helpful and intrusive depending on the context. The anonymous nature is concerning. Anonymous emails/letter writers choose to be anonymous because it gives them a position of power over the recipient. This is not equivalent to leaving a note on someone’s car, saying “you parked in two spots”. It’s a deliberate message from someone in the recipient’s circle of friends or acquaintances who knows specific details about them.

The idea that it could be a parent posing as a kid is disturbing as well. There’s a high chance this is a one off from a disgruntled teen who will never write anything again. But I think op should be prepared if it’s not the case. [/quote]

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