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[quote=Anonymous][quote]F you. I’m a lawyer. I kept my family single-handedly afloat when my husband lost his job. I still make more money. I am the source of health benefits. I work hard for my clients and I have busted my @ss to keep my family stable.

-op[/quote]

OP as a single mom by choice, I feel your fierce acknowledgement of how hard it is. I signed up for this life; ie doing it all and earning to boot. I'm a physician, so I earn a high salary as well. But it's exhausting, and it's hard to imagine being nickel and dimed for the rare personal time I have. The part about working out at home spoke to me; I have to leave the house to work out or DD is in the room every 5 minutes. I hire a nanny for those times, so it solves that problem, but then again, I don't have a partner to share the special moments. So there's always a tradeoff.

When you describe your past as a couple, especially with the job loss, the seeds of resentment seem planted at that time. It would take work to undo in therapy, but without a concerted effort you sound pretty much done, and I don't blame you. While that may be the ultimate outcome, you won't regret genuinely trying to work through things, no matter the outcome. Even if it ends, you'll know you did your best. And if you can run the gauntlet of the little kid years, it gets so much easier. My DD is now 11 and it's a totally different world. Wishing you lots of luck.[/quote]

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