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Reply to "Holding my boundary. Let him be mad."
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[quote=Anonymous]The most revealing post to me was when OP said that when her husband lost his job, she coddled him and did everything. OP, kindly, you are getting something out of that kind of behavior. You and your husband have some kind of symbiosis where you take over and her retreats from doing. I think there is some kind of entrenched dynamic in your marriage where you do everything and make many of the choices and he feels controlled and discouraged and no sense of empowerment -- a lot of people react to that by losing energy and so they feel tired all the time. You need to dramatically change your whole dynamic if you want to stay married. You release control, he feels empowered to actually make choices and live his life. He'll feel mor free, and you will respect him again. This kid thing feels like a red herring. [/quote]
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