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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got married really young, too young.  I believed the fairy tale.  I knew my husband would be a good provider and parent. I'm not sure if I truly was in love with him or liked the idea of being taken care of by someone who really loved me. Fast forward two decades later, my husband and I are not the same people.  We have had major life challenges (including the loss of a child) that have changed us.

I am a honest and up front person.  I did reach a point two years ago I asked my husband for a divorce so I find someone who enjoys me and I enjoy him.  I realized life was far too short to not get want one truly desires, but I did not have any particular man in mind at the time that I was leaving my husband for.  I just knew I was a good person and could do better than the situation I was in.

My husband at first was mad.  Then took several days to think things over.  When we sat down to talk about the situation like adults, he surprised me.  He cried and begged me not to leave.  I saw that he still loved me but I could not reciprocate the feeling.  The one thing that we did agree on was that we did not want to raise our kids in separate households.  My husband said as long as I did not rub it in his face or let people we know find out, I could have affairs if I needed to.

So that's our arrangement.  I stayed for the sake of the kids (he is an A+ dad).  After they go to college we may reconsider our situation. [/quote]

This is an honest relationship, both parties are getting what they want and no one has to lie and worry about hurt feelings.   I wish my husband were like you PP. I have basically tols him that he can have a pass that all he has to do is ask but he prefers to sneak around. Unfortunately he is not smart enough to cover his tracks so far far is activities have been limited to cyber sex so I have pretended not to know.  Luckily it has not affect our sex life so I will keep turning a blind eye until it starts affecting us or his relationships escalate. 
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