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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am in the midst of planning a summer wedding. Our ceremony and reception are at different venues but the two are a ten minute walk from each other (five minute drive) and both in downtown DC. My usual instinct is that when a wedding has two venues, it's incumbent upon the hosts to provide transportation but I'm not sure if that's true here.
Would it be unreasonable to ask guests to walk from one venue to the next? Or otherwise make their own way? 
I have not made my mind up either way so would love advice on balance cost (of transportation) and etiquette. [/quote]

I've never been to a wedding that provided transportation to guests to a reception from the ceremony. Ever. And I don't think I've ever been to a wedding on the same premises as a ceremony. Maybe provide it to elderly or if you know someone has a health issue but the vast majority can figure it out. [/quote]

Then you’ve only been to some cheap a** weddings. 🤔[/quote]

Exactly this. OP has to be a troll, or really has not been to as many weddings as she thinks.

OP, your best bet us to ask someone who has been both innand actually part of 30+ weddings, because you have been getting some terrible information.

No transportation = cheap ass. [/quote]

First of all, you both are condescending, smug little pricks. "Cheap a-- weddings?" Well, aren't you a peach.

Second of all, I come from a large family, with many weddings, as well as have been in at LEAST 8 weddings as an adult (not including flower girls as a child). And I've attended dozens more as a guest. In only 1 was transportation provided and that was a trolley to the wedding party only. All weddings were at a religious houses (church or synagogue) and party offset at a variety of types of venues.

My husband - same on his side.

So the exception may be you. [/quote]

I've been to well over a hundred weddings in my lifetime and not one has been at multiple venues. [/quote]

NP: I truly don't understand this. Are you saying that you've been to 100 weddings and each wedding ceremony was held in the same location as the reception afterwards?! I have only been at a shared ceremony/reception wedding in just a few cases - like on a beach or in a restaurant - but 99% have been held at two different venues.  I've been provided transportation from a hotel to a church and then to the reception, and I've been shuttled around as a member of the wedding party, but I've never once been provided transport just from the ceremony to the reception and back again. [/quote]

Yes, they’ve always been in the same place. Always. 
Generally a hotel, but I’ve also attended weddings at restaurants, clubs, museums and even a baseball stadium.

I’d find it very odd to be expected to go to a different venue. [/quote]

You have never been to a church wedding?[/quote]

No [/quote]

Church weddings aren't really a thing anymore. Maybe 30+ years ago, but not now. [/quote]

Lol to you maybe.

This whole thread is bonkers because it's people from different cultures not understanding one and other. This is 1000% a cultural thing.

I'm Episcopalian, my husband is Catholic. We both have large families and lots of weddings. They are always, always two locations. First church then venue, normally a country club.

We went to college in California, most of our friends are not religious. The weddings we go to for that group are all at one venue.

Personally I wouldn't think twice if I was asked to walk ten minutes. I also wouldn't be surprised if they provided transport. [/quote]

[b]Catholics are the most hard core of the group - meaning they are the ones that require the church wedding, no? [/b] It used to be both the bride and groom were required to be Catholic, and provided this is their first marriage, in order to marry in a Catholic church.

I don't think Episcopalians could care less, whether or not you have a church wedding, from my understanding. Episcopalians are far, far less strict than Catholics.

But yes, first church then venue for the reception.  But that is not OP's question.  OP is sounding like there is no parking at one or both places, but has yet to clarify.  This would be important information to answer the question. [/quote]

Mormons get married in a temple.   I don't think it's "required" but it's something all Mormons I've known want.   Both the bride and groom must be Mormon for a temple wedding, and only Mormons with a "temple recommend" have permission to go to the temple for the wedding--so if the couple has under age siblings, friends/family who aren't Mormon, etc. not everyone who will be at the reception, will be at the marriage ceremony.[/quote]

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