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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]ABC cared because their employees and America cared.  I mean if you don’t care what others think just keep doing you without trying to justify lying and sneaking around.  I mean if you don’t care, why are you hiding in the shadows? Is it because whoever you are banging doesn’t want anyone to see you? Are you that hideous?  I mean, why not just tell the guy’s wife?  It doesn’t matter right? Or are you afraid to do that because he will dump you and call you a psycho?  I guess I don’t understand people that can’t find D that is available.  [/quote]

Its often about the lifestyle and money, as PP noted. My exH AP was his direct subordinate at work, dependent on him with her salary, consulting contracts and so on. It happens more often than you think: [b]married men don't get laid for free[/b][/quote]

I can assure you they get laid for free. [/quote]

Then why do so many men pay for sex?  Paying to be able to leave, as the comedy joke says?[/quote]

Yes. They want someone who won’t cause problems or have emotional entanglements. Many men see this as more ethical than an affair.[/quote]

They're also less likely to get caught. A professional is much more likely to keep her mouth shut and not have any contact with your social or work circle.[/quote]

Honestly I agree with this perspective. Much better a pro than a love affair.[/quote]

Agree. But the men that don't want to pay (because it ain't cheap) and don't want spouse to find out--settle for a married woman thinking she has too much to lose to tell.  But--that is where it gets messy.  They are looking for exit affairs and think it means more, then he has to lie to keep it going--kick the can down the road.  Then-they wish they had just paid in the first place as it gets way too complicated to easily get out of.  The fear of her getting mad and telling the wife.[/quote]
No, using a sex worker is insane. You have a MUCH, MUCH higher chance of passing along a serious disease this way.[/quote]

Wow.  When you are being used because someone did the calculation and came to the conclusion that you might be 'safer' than a sex worker, and of course it's free.[/quote]
Why do you assume someone is always being "used" and "discarded" etc etc? It's a mutually beneficial exchange for those people. Doesn't make it right, but it's downright misogynist to always assume the female AP is being used like a piece of trash.[/quote]

NP.  It's because obviously this woman doesn't actually enjoy sex.[/quote]

I guess I would ask how many men dump the AP and go non-contact if it encroaches on their 'real' life?  I assume that is the norm.  Take a ride on the bicycle for awhile and then it gets a flat or the novelty wears off so they put her out on the curb for free-cycle.  Maybe another married guy can pick her up and get some more use out of her.

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