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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread makes me more depressed than most on DCUM. The vitriol is amazing- someone asks your child to put her phone somewhere and you are all freaking out. No wonder we’re f$caked as a nation. Srsly bummed out by you people who would be offended by this. [/quote]

I am shocked how many parents are as addicted to cell phones and doesn't see the issue with kids going back to parallel play [/quote]

Parallel play?!  We are talking about tweens and teens.

I think the issue here is that people are talking about different things.  Huge difference between a basket at the door for a sleepover of a few 12 year old girls and a basement party with older co ed teens.  I definitely want my kid having her phone on her if we are talking about the latter.  If the former, just let us know in advance so I can ask my tween to check the phone from time to time in case I have tried to reach her.  [/quote]

DP.  That PP was spot on about parallel play.  You don't see it, because you don't want to look.  Others of us do.[/quote]

I know you all think this parallel play comment is really profound. But teens getting together to study is also "parallel play". Watching a sporting event or movie together is parallel play. Exercising together is parallel play. There are lots of social things that people do near one another that don't require constant interaction.

Also, most of the times when I see kids on phones they are also talking, laughing, and sharing what they are doing with each other. [/quote]

Why would you get together with your friends to do these things if your not going to socialize and interact? Why not do it solo then? Also, things like watching sports or even playing video games can be extremely social. Staring at individual screens isn't. All parents are trying to do is limit scrern time and have kids be kids. Totally fine.[/quote]

My point is that kids can hang out with their phones and interact just as much as they would if they were having a study date, or taking an exercise class together, or watching a sporting event. I have never seen a group of kids gather, silently look at their phone nonstop for hours, and then separate. Not a single time.

It sounds like perhaps the issue is that some kids you know just use their phone too much. If that's the case for your kid, and you feel they are spending so much time on it that they "can't be a kid", then you definitely should take it away. [/quote]

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