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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1 a.m. is a hard time to get up and get back to sleep if you need to be alert in the morning. Could you pump around 9 and go to bed for a few hours, have DH handle the 10 p.m. feeding, and then you take care of the middle of the night feedings? As others have said, this pattern may change in another 1-2 weeks, so you will continue to need to adjust by trial and error. If DH can take pre- midnight and you can take post, that might allow everyone to get a somewhat reasonable amount of uninterrupted sleep.[/quote]

OP here. I have discussed doing this and he said no. [b]He will be going to bed at 10 and needs a full nights sleep. Now that he is back at work, he will be waking up at 6am to workout before getting ready for work. [/b][/quote]

No, absolutely no. Just because he is back at work doesn't mean he gets to act like there is no baby. Life has changed. Parents do not sleep all night every night. Parents do not get to go to the gym every day when there is a newborn.

OP, you tried to say he is a good guy. He is not acting like one. He had a child with you and now wants to live his old life no matter the cost to you or your child. People in this thread are worried about him driving when they should be worried about you smothering the baby because you fell asleep while feeding him.

He is a parent. He needs to grow up and act like one. Sometimes parenting sucks. He needs to step up and deal with it.

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Your response is crazy and overly dramatic.  The DH is going to work to pay the bills.  He likely can’t take any more time off.  It makes zero sense for one parent to return to work and also be in charge of night feedings.

OP - learn to take naps during the day and go on stroller walks for exercise.  [/quote]

Nope. How is it crazy and overly dramatic to expect a father to parent? No one is talking about him taking time off or be in charge of nightime feedings. I am talking about him accepting that his life has changed and stepping up to parent. That means he does not get to sleep uninterrupted every night from 10 -6. That means he does not get to treat himself to a workout every morning. He helps out by taking a 10 feeding and then the morning feed instead of his workout. If he can work out while pushing the baby in the stroller, then he can do that.

And how is OP supposed to nap during the day? Who is taking care of the baby then? She feeds, pumps, cleans up. Maybe she would like to shower or use the bathroom. Perhaps eat. Then guess what, the baby is awake again.
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Let me guess…you’re a SAHM?[/quote]

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