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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a mom, I have different standards for my DD and my DS for paying for dates. However the goal is same - they attract good people and they remain protected.

I want my DS to always pays or insists on paying for dates. He also has to listen to the girl and allow her what she wants (he pays or she pays).   The idea is that he is treating the girl right, earn her trust and respect, and give her the options.  The default is that he pays.

I want my DD to never allow guys to pay for her on dates, and only allow the guy she is going steady with or married to to pay.  In her case, it allows her to [b]not feel any obligation [/b]and not create any negative feelings in men if things don't work out.  This also allows her to keep dates inexpensive (because she is paying her share) and not over the top. The default is that she goes dutch.

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Raise your daughter to value herself such that there’s no suggestion of “obligation” if a well-raised young man picks up her coffee. You’re seriously raising her to consider her value $3.99??? [/quote]

If it’s nothing then why can’t the woman cough up?[/quote]

She can, if she wants to date the kind of guy who doesn’t want to. She may prefer to date the kind of man who doesn’t see dating in terms of “coughing up” and would prefer to treat his date to coffee. [/quote]

And has she ever once considered paying for his coffee?[/quote]

If she has, then she’s the target of the men who want their date to pay. If she hasn’t, she’s the target date of the kind of man who doesn’t expect his date to pay. Why is it the former is such an insecure group? [/quote]

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