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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All these dudes who say ‘not fat’ havevsex packs and are over 6’1”, right?[/quote]

Women: What do men want?

Men: We want these things.

Women: F-you!! And you're fat! [/quote]

Yep, every time.  The women of DCUM love to tell us what we should want, and correct us when we answer the question of what we do want.  Really, why ask?[/quote]

You have an issue with people who age at the same rate as you. Have some introspection as to why this is an issue for you.[/quote]

Exactly - why don’t all these 60+ men date 60+ women who would be on same page with retirement, kids, time availability etc? Nope, they all try to find a good looking, financially secure 40 yo. Believe me - 40 yo women that you want have no problem finding men their age or slightly younger to date. All my girlfriends remarried to men who are within 5 years of their own age. Younger second husbands outweigh older ones in my circle (more couples when she’s 48 he’s 43 etc at the time of making  the second marriage official). [/quote]

The men are too nusy paying off their first and second wives - women don't think this through, just want a man with a house. Sad, but true. [/quote]

It’s not financially wise: a man with good salary (200+) and no first house  in his 40s is > than 60+ man with a house. You can build a life with option 1, and will have leftovers from prior marriages with option 2.  I have a fully paid off house from my own generous divorce settlement. Of course all option 2 men look for well-off much younger divorcees.  But income and future earning capacity is worth way more than a house. I can build multiple properties with someone my age and income level instead of retiring with 60+ husband, devoting all my time to his interests of a retiree, and who would leave everything to his kids regardless. WTF! [/quote]

Just faced this exact scenario and it’s true.[/quote]

Did you face it with your partner ? Just curious why you got into this relationship if it was nothing for you? [/quote]

Honestly I just wanted to find someone I clicked with and was more open on age than I’ve been in the past. I didn’t think through this aspect of things until months in.[/quote]

Oh I see. Women should approach dating just like men: younger is better. There is no reason why men should always get younger parters: in fact it should be the opposite. Professional women live longer and you want to have about same projected work span as your partner. Unless he’s super wealthy and can make up for you not working when he’s retired. [/quote]

Right exactly. He earns well (about $300K) but is not super wealthy because of divorce and prior family obligations and he will only be working probably another 6-7 years at most. I do really like him but it was a bit odd hanging out with his retired on fixed income friends. He was pretty thrifty.[/quote]

I can only imagine his boring that was ! These are different generation folks, nothing in common. My exH and his friends were like that: only talks about their brokerage accounts, wine tasting and next cruises [/quote]

I’d be fine with that. It was more like medical problems, what upcoming free events were happening, and how to split the check.[/quote]

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