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[quote=Anonymous]Most of the PPs share a common assumption:

That without parental “pushing” or “pressure,” their kids will not be motivated or successful.

This is completely contrary to the research. Human beings are inherently motivated. It looks different for different people, but it’s part of the human drive.

The term that connects all this research is “Self-Determibation Theory.”

I believe the research originated in the University of Rochester psychology department in the 1980s, and has spun off applications to many different fields, including parenting. (It’s also the foundation for Carol Dweck’s amazing work re mindsets and motivation.)

If you’re interested:

https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/theory/

Re application to parenting, in particular:

https://www.fatherly.com/parenting/self-determination-theory-independent-kids/amp

The Psychology of Parental Control: How Well-meant Parenting Backfires, by Wendy S. Grolnick

https://www.amazon.com/Psychology-Parental-Control-Well-meant-Parenting/dp/0805835415[/quote]

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