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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No one is saying it is weird to cry or be exhausted. We have ALL been there.

Some have just been saying that when you are so fragile, it does not take much to set you off. Don't turn daggers on the world, let alone other moms.

Just because they have a few years on you does not mean they are "resentful" irrelevant" "envious." Those characterizations really smack of misogyny or projection.  [/quote]

+1. Not only that, but no one is telling you that you are “doing it wrong.” Your own insecurity is taking a lighthearted comment and twisting it. Saying “cherish these moments” is neither a judgment nor unsolicited advice. And if that’s what you are feeling when you hear that comment, maybe do some self reflection. [/quote]

I mean, it's literally both a judgement and unsolicited advice. You can argue over whether people should care, but it's a directive to feel a certain way about motherhood in the moment.

Sometimes I think the main problem with communication is that a lot of people just say stuff to say stuff and they don't actually think what anything means or how it will be received. Like maybe people are saying "cherish these moments" just because then they have a go-to thing to say to moms of young kids? That's why people are so upset at being told it's unwelcome -- they put zero thought into it anyway and are just using it as conversation filler. Like when someone is grieving and people say "let me know if there's anything I can do" but a lot of people don't mean it at all. It's just what they say.[/quote]

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