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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I were a legacy or big donor kid, legacy/donor admissions would make me really question my worth. Every other admissions category comes with a personal challenge and merit. Athletes are exceptionally hard workers (I’m not one btw, but do not understand the unhinged DCUM haters). First-gen did not have the family assistance. URM have faced racism. But legacy and donor kids did literally nothing to merit their admissions. It had to mess with their heads. They must know they are only there because of pure luck. Idk. I can’t understand why people want that for their kids. [/quote]

My kid is a legacy who would not have gotten into the top 20 that he did without that status. It wasn't alone legacy that got him in, but also the multi-million dollar gifts from his family over the last 60 years. The thing is, he worked incredibly hard--as hard as any kid could--at a very intense independent school. He is incredibly bright but has ADHD and there was just no way, despite his 6-7 hours of homework a night, meeting with teachers, ECs, all of it--and probably more than 99% of his peers--that he could get straight As. He got into great schools, just not quite as high as the one that legacy got him. He chose it anyway, with some trepidation. He says that sometimes he feels "imposter" syndrome (I explained that's not exactly what that is), but he knows he worked every bit as hard as his classmates who didn't get in. So why does he deserve it less? He worked harder than most and is highly intelligent. If you think he didn't deserve it, then your argument must be that only those with a very certain kind of intelligence, regardless of work ethic, should get in. Is that what you think?[/quote]

I think it's good that your kid has imposter syndrome, you said it yourself- money bought his way in. Hopefully it weights on him[/quote]

Yeah, kid is clearly smarter than mom here. [/quote]

[b]And already getting his butt kicked by the undeserving strivers[/b].[/quote]

The Cinderella myth, so cute. My DC1 was a Regeneron scholar and he's at a top med school now. All of the R. scholars and all of his med school class are from very affluent, connected families in the industry. [/quote]

What does that have to do with your son who is feeling imposter syndrome at the school where his father attended because he only got in because he was a legacy?  Are they clones?[/quote]

That was a different poster. I'm the one with the Brown family and the scholarship. [/quote]

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