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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a guy who would satisfy OP's criteria (more than, actually), and I would not be interested in the least. I have more than enough money to entertain myself, so I would rather have the company of someone more charming. I assume that was the case with OP's husband as well. If she couldn't hold onto one rich guy, why would she hold onto another?

Also, most rich guys aren't too impressed with a mid-level GS who happened into a lot of money through divorce. Kind of gives me the willies.[/quote]

Op in this case was the one w the money. The ex husband was the one holding onto OP 😂.
Corrected it for you.

I find it interesting how you are all piling  on to OP. So many times i read about wives looking for “providers”, SAHM looking for husbands who can support their lifestyle. What is so different about what OP is looking for : equal footing on financial income. Someone who can make $300k and she can talk to about topics of interest to her. She has it made already. She doesnt need anyone’s money. Just a guy who can pay his share when they go on expensive vacations. 
And you’re all saying she needs to be younger?!?

🤦‍♀️ [/quote]

I love how OP is pretending like another poster here.

[b]OP and husband created a business using money earned by the husband.[/b] And then she got the business, which she describes as a "trust", in the divorce settlement. Maybe someone is going to be impressed by that, but most successful men are not going to be impressed. If OP wanted to live the lifestyle of a family that earns 600K a year, she should have stayed married. But again, if the rich guys were tripping over themselves to prove their worthiness to OP, she wouldn't be posting here. 
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OP here. I don't pretend to be anyone.There are indeed several commenters here. My first internship at a law firm in Frankfurt earned me EUR30,000 in one summer in early 2000s. It was one of the top 5 private equity law firms in the world, and I got an offer after my grad at NYU. That was a few years before my marriage. My exH would have never married me if I didn't have a certain degree and earning capacity back then. After moving to the US I worked at a bank, literally in 3 months after my son was born I already had a job offer. The business was started on  our joint savings and all loans underwritten against our joint income. Without me, a second earner, there would not be any side business. My exH was making close to what i earned in mid 2000s and his income alone would not be sufficient for this scale of business. It was the banks' money, not his. We borrowed a lot at that time, took high risks.  Later in marriage, we decided it was more efficient for one spouse to focus on corporate career (he traveled a lot), and the other spouse to focus on a "side business". During the period of 2014-2018 I grew the business and repaid all loans, eventually generating double income vs what my exH was making at his firm (400K incoming to joint accounts vs his 200K, he was making 300K by the time of the divorce).  And I continued at W2 "safe" job all the way, to keep one foot in my profession even though it was no longer a professional priority. So in total I generated roughly 0.5mm into family budget, vs his 300k. That is not counting for my role as a default parent and all the household duties. I worked like a plowing horse during my marriage.

So your bold phrase is simply false. My exH tried to argue this and lost at one day of hearings as my lawyers and experts were able to show a much higher financial contribution that stemmed specifically from me. I was awarded the business, he got a small buyout and his 401k. [/quote]

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