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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP. Make sure your husband is working the hours he wants to work and hire out the rest. Spend time as a couple. You already know men aren't cut out for this stuff. [b]He likes the fun stuff not the work.[/b] There are men who leave their one year olds and ride off into the sunset. Enjoy him for what he can provide and if you get your act together and the kids maybe he will step up or at least there will be less fighting.[/quote]

Re-read the OP. He's not just doing fun stuff like outings. He is doing that entirety of morning and evening childcare all weekdays. That post-work to bedtime routine is a lot. And mornings too. Brining gender stereotypes into this is ridiculous.[/quote]

But it's all routine. Its all stuff he's comfortable with. The man doesn't want to get out of his comfort zone and make a mistake anywhere. He wants to feel useful doing simple stuff. This is a guy who can handle simple stuff. Not complex stuff. I enjoy doing laundry sometimes because it's simple. I don't have to worry a lot about it. Fun might be the wrong word. He wants to not have stress raising children though his time with them working or during down time.[/quote]

Totally disagree that providing all the weekday childcare of a toddler is "simple." That age is full of resistance and tantrums and a lot of "parenting" to make it come together each day.

Lmao at the comparison to laundry. [/quote]

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