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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If my MIL did this and did not apologize I would hold it against her forever. Not in a severe way -- I wouldn't treat her any differently (I'm always pleasant to her) and I wouldn't do anything to harm her.[b] I would just remember she'd done it and it would continue to annoy me for the rest of her life.[/b]

My MIL said something thoughtlessly unkind to me right after my DC was born and it is burned into my brain. I'll never forget it and it colors my perception of her. It was just deeply selfish and hurtful, and really demonstrated the degree to which she doesn't really see me as a person, more like an idea.

I think this is common in the MIL/DIL relationship -- I think it can be hard for MILs to see that DILs are just people, that we aren't trying to take anything from them or compete with them (at least I definitely am not). I just want to be treated respectfully. I don't get these weird boundary violations or oversteps that seem designed to get a rise. My mom does some of this stuff too. I don't understand and do my best to ignore, but[b] it really impacts the closeness of our relationship[/b]. You just learn not to trust someone when they do things like this all the time.[/quote]

People like you astound me.  Why on earth would you cede that kind of real estate in your head over something so trivial?  It was a box of chocolates.  And it would "annoy" you for the rest of your life?  Wow.  You don't have enough to do and you need to get out into the world and have some experiences that are really meaningful.  Sheesh.  Grow up.[/quote]

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