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[quote=Anonymous]If you want to see a friend and they have small kids (and yours are older or for whatever reason easier to manage in the evening), give them options and make it easy for them - one of my best friends has 3 young kids and when I want to see her I make plans with her to go to their house with an oven-ready meal or takeout, help her and her husband with bed time, and then she and I watch movies in our sweatpants and catch up. If you don't want to do the first part, you could offer to bring dessert and come over after the kids are down for movies/wine. Another friend with 2 under 2 I meet for walks in her neighborhood or a lunch picnic in the park. Sometimes we make it out for a kid-free meet up, but by making it easier on them I see them way more often than I would otherwise.

I also think it helps our friendship because they feel supported and I am reminded of how insane that period is, plus I am now closer to their kids than I probably would otherwise be.

If I want to go for a nice dinner or spa day, I text the friends who have K-12 aged kids or no kids. If the ones with small kids want to go out on the town, they'll let me know. It maybe happens once every couple of months. But I love their company and value their friendship, so the rest of the time I find other ways to see them without adding to their stress.[/quote]

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