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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a SAHW, OP. I feel this way at least 5 out of 7 days but I work to tamp down those feelings because I know DH and kids are depending on me. Everyone desires financial and family stability but no educated person wants to focus on serving others -- even beloved children or partners -- in a menial capacity for decades. If your DW could enjoy nearly the same standard of living without having to live the lackey life, why would she not try to seize the chance to change? She does not care about the cleanliness of your underwear or your latest squabble with a colleague, and is tired of pretending.[/quote]
Triple this if you are rarely saying thank you, or showing gratitude or appreciation or even listening to her daily.[/quote]

The PP Sounds super pathetic. If you want something else go for it don’t just blame everybody around you because you don’t have it. The kids don’t need you 24 seven. Your husband can do his own freaking laundry. The kids can toO actually.

You feel worthless because everything you do has little to no value anymore you’re doing stuff for people they can do it for themselves and probably stunting their growth since you do it for them. Figure out what you wanna do with your life and do it but stop blaming others[/quote]

There is truth in both sides. SAHMs seem unintelligent because we let ourselves slip into financial dependence and lose leverage in the marriage. WOHMs don't necessarily enjoy life more because they do most of the unpaid work that we do at home and hold down  FTJs. When children get older it makes so much sense to reconfigure work/home arrangements. I am struck by how many are unhappy, either way.

I actually agree with Immigrant "Life is WORK" poster: no one is winning, everyone is exhausted, resistance is pointless. We are all stuck on some kind of hamster wheel. If OP's wife leaves him her sources of stress and discontent will only change, not disappear. But that may be more than enough for her. [/quote]

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