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[quote=Anonymous]I wrote the post about the dad sailing back in and yes in retrospect I guess I "picked the wrong mate." I won't go into it here but it wasn't as obvious as you might think. I definitely didn't want to control things and I would have appreciated the help with raising the kids. It's a lot of work.

Regarding being seen as a martyr, you're not and you have to do all the things every other family does except there's one adult doing it and it gets exhausting. My EX gave me full physical custody without me asking at the beginning of the divorce before that term meant anything to me if that tells you anything.

I wouldn't be human if I didn't feel something about this. To be blunt I was willing to sacrifice my personal and professional life for many years while he was living like a single guy. He will retire in a much better financial place than I will and he has completed most of his life's bucket list.  I don't regret doing it but it does feel unbalanced and yes, I'm going to say it, unfair. It's one of those situations where you have to reach deep and be the bigger person because my kids do need their dad. I support their relationship and encourage it truly but I can have some complex feelings about it.

Anyone who feels smug about their choice of mate should slow down because life is a journey not a destination and I've seen relationships change so have compassion today because you might need it yourself tomorrow. [/quote]

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