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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,  you want to know what gutted feels like?  I was accepted to two top 25 schools coming out of a public high school from an UMC family.  I hadn't received any grooming with zero SAT courses, tutors or advisors.  I l sorted it all on my own, working my tail off and figuring out the logistics with no guidance or support.  After receiving my acceptances, my father told me that he didn't believe in girls spending money on college because they "just end up staying home with kids anyways."  He refused to spend even a cent on college for me.  I had no idea prior to this point that he wouldn't support me attending college--he apparently had assumed that I wouldn't get it anywhere.

I moved out the morning after high school graduation, got a job and saved every penny.  I attended a bottom third tier university that gave me massive merit aid, as I didn't qualify for need based aid based on my father's income.  I worked three jobs most of college to afford to live.

I graduated top in my college class, won a Rhodes scholarship, got a PhD from Nobel Prize winner, and have a very successful career.  I still don't speak to my father.

Your daughter has it easy.  She should go to one of those tops schools and enjoy her privilege.[/quote]

You sound super cool. Congratulations on all that you have achieved. Perhaps with age you will develop some sympathy for your father (though your bitterness is understandable). Think of him as being vision-impaired. It sounds like he literally did not know what the world could be. Somehow you did, and made it happen. Perhaps your life opened his eyes? You may want to explore that possibility before it is too late. [/quote]Eh, I'm not that old.  This happened in the 2000s.  He's a college educated professional with a master's degree.  He should know better, but instead chooses to be a Trump evangelist with sexist and racist beliefs.  He likely negatively impacted the lives of dozens of women and minorities who he managed throughout his career.  My decision to cut him off isn't about bitterness, but at this point is a conscious decision to live my beliefs.[/quote]

Good on you, pp. I’d buy you a drink irl if I could. Cheers.[/quote]

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