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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. 
 I posted here because I literally have  no one else to talk to about this. I know for a fact that if I tell anyone in my family they will think less of my husband. No matter how I tell the story, showing concern about your family’s share in a living person’s will just isn’t a good look in my family. I can’t tell my dad - he has been through enough. I feel like I have eaten all my feelings and now they are eating me. Hence the attempt to unload. Thank you to everyone who offered compassion and balanced advise. Some of the posts were truly though provoking,  even if I didn’t agree with them.

I have decided that asking my dad about his will goes against who I am - but I also understand from folks who have posted here that those are not everyone’s values. People have different perspectives on life - that’s how life works. I feel more accepting of my husband and how he might evaluate the situation. We are not the same person, and that’s ok.[/quote]
You are either a troll or just someone verrryyyyy condescending. Seriously, people on here post all the time about talking to elderly parents about their finances. It is sometimes uncomfortable and awkward but a necessary part of life. Dying without a will can lead to all kinds of unnecessary complications.
It’s a part of caring for your parent to make it clear what their  end of life financial AND medical  wishes are. Unless someone has a history of trying to grab your daddy’s assets why would you assume the worst about your husband? Why would you assume that other people have ‘ different’ values because they know it is imperative to handle this aspect of life? Or that it is dictating what a grown man like your dad is supposed to do?
All you had to say to your husband was’ nope, did not discuss and I don’t feel comfortable doing so’, but I get why you asked’
But no, you make it about him being wrong and your are a much better person.  Seriously, get over yourself.
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I said people have different perspectives on life not that one perspective is better. I also didn’t say one set of values is better - some people may value being practical more others may value emotional aspects. A number of posts here pointed that out. I didn’t understand why it’s condescending to say what I said but agree to disagree. Again, thanks to posters who helped.[/quote]
No, your entire tone is condescending. And the fact that you think people cannot value practicality and emotional aspects is telling. They are a myriad of ways that this conversation could be approached with one’s parents, none of which have to be unemotional or insensitive or infantalizing.[/quote]

OP was nicer than I would have been. Here, I'll say it - you are all just a bunch of greedy vultures. You don't care if your elderly parents are happy and content, you're just waiting to get that sweet money when they die. It's not "practicality", you're just greedy.  [/quote]

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