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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Newborns basically sleep and eat. They’re the easiest age to take care of, provided they aren’t colicky, so I wouldn’t worry about the DH. And I think the posters who are outraged are (perhaps a little hyperbolically) reacting to the nonchalance in OP’s leaving her newborn for a week. Most women wouldn’t be so indifferent (?) to not being with their brand new infant for a week but who knows, maybe the text doesn’t translate emotions well or this is a troll.[/quote]

OP here. I’m not a troll. I’m nervous and will my baby but I know he will be in great hands. He will be with his dad, not a stranger. I trust my husband and I know he is a capable of taking care of our baby for a week. My baby sleeps an 8 hour stretch at night, takes a bottle, and naps well. I would be more worried if it were another family member, but my husband is a great dad. He may not be me or a woman, but his male genitalia doesn’t make him any less of competent caregiver. [/quote]

I say this kindly but this sounds like post partum depression. I know you’re in defensive mode right now but hopefully, if things get worse you’ll get help. [/quote]
How on earth does this sound like PPD?[/quote]

Not bonding with your baby is a sign of PPD.  That a parent can easily leave their 8 week old baby for an entire week when there are clearly other options (even though OP is making excuses as to why they won't work), is a sign of not properly bonding with the baby. 
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wth makes you think she’s not bonded to her baby??! you are really projecting. it’s also pretty gross that you think the only possible explanation for a woman being able to leave an infant **with its father** is that she is not sufficiently bonded. you have it exactly wrong - hyper vigilance and the mother unwilling to leave the baby with anyone else is a symptom of PPD/PPA and possibly lack of support. OP on the other hand is emotionally able to leave her baby **with its father** to attend to important family needs. She is in a healthy mode, not depressive mode. [/quote]

You are nuts PP saying this is PPD!  She trusts her co-parent to take care of their baby.  Thats great! As many others pointed out, no one accuses men of not bonding with their baby appropriately when they start traveling again 2 weeks after they're born.  No one says parents/baby can't bond securely with a baby that they adopt at a few months old.  [/quote]

How about the OP checks in with her OB and see what he/she says?

For what it's worth, I'd have a problem if my husband left for an entire week to take care of his mom or dad when our baby was 8 weeks old.  Especially since it is just 2 hours away.  But you are choosing to ignore the biological differences between males and females.  Women's bodies are literally made to take care of infants.  I'm not talking about breastfeeding specifically.  Female bodies produce hormones to promote bonding, to make you more alert and attentive, etc.  Brains are more attuned to infant cries so they will wake up.

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