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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven't read all of the comments but it is unusual that OP only lives 2 hours away and plans to stay away for a full week.  Dad needs cooking and cleaning and meds?  That doesn't sound like 24 hour care.  The need to be with my 8-week old was so visceral it was hard for me to be away long for errands.  I can't imagine why she couldn't visit her baby twice even during the week.  Baby will be "fine", but honestly [b]at that age it is your duty to be with your child[/b] and you should take the inconvenience to visit mid-week.[/quote]

So...what about all the women who go back to work at six weeks?

I guess they're not really moms.[/quote]

I think in non-COVID times people wouldnt be reacting so badly. She is putting her baby at grave risk and states all of her family is "socially distancing" - we all know what that means for most people: "I wear a mask but still go inside and have playdates and blah blah blah". She is not planning on quarantining nor is she planning on taking a test before she returns to her baby. She hasnt contacted her pediatrician to discuss whether her 8-10 week old is at an increased risk upon her return. To be frank, she is quite flippant about the risk to her child. Yes, Dad is an equal caretaker but I think most people are aghast at her apparent disregard for risk. She seems to care more about her fathers risk of being exposed to family members flying in to help instead of her CHILDS risk at her returning from  travel.

This is exactly how COVID spreads. You are supposed quarantine when returning from travel or after family travels to you.

Id also say that going to work at 6 weeks postpartum and working 8-12 hours at a time is not the same as being gone for 168 hours straight. [/quote]

Presumably she's driving there  in her own car so little risk of exposure there.  A two hour drive doesn't require a stop or rest-stop bathroom usage.   Then if she trusts that her father and his caregiver have been carefully social distancing - then what is the issue.   Her father sounds somewhat homebound and unlikely to be going out. 
I live across the country from my parents so visits are not possible but knowing them and their personalities it would be quite safe for me to drive 2 hours to visit them in an emergency.  I would totally trust that they have been carefully isolating (they did not even go to vote in person after their ballots got lost in the mail due to concerns of covid in a very blue state.)  They are not social people to begin with...  It would be safe for them too since I am in a pod of one and literally have no interaction with people.

OP seems to have very good judgement, a great husband and has thought this through carefully.  I'm sure all will be fine and if there is an issue that comes up  that requires her presence she is only two hours away.  This isn't a "grave risk situation." this sounds like a minimally elevated risk situation.  Not zero but quite low.

I'm a little shocked by all the negativity instead of helpfulness on this thread.  Seriously her husband sounds quite competent to take care of the baby and has 8 weeks of experience.   It sounds like it could be a really nice father-baby bonding experience even if a bit hard on the OP for being separated.

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