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[quote=Anonymous]I agree that there will never be a "family" in most of these instances.  There should never be force or demands to try and make it so.  But.

Why is it so hard to simply be welcoming to new spouses?  Why doesn't the Golden Rule ("Do Unto Others...") apply in both directions?

You may not like your parents new partners. And they may not like yours either.  A little respect for the important roles they play would be a simple step in the right direction.

My DH's Son In Law takes financial advantage of his daughter, likes to gamble, likes to drink, has a family with felons and a history of domestic violence, is extremely political, has an entire cache of guns and can't string together a cohesive sentence on anything of importance.

SIL is not the kind of person my DH thinks is a good partner but his daughter picked him whatever her reasons. My DH has been welcoming, has conversations with SIL as best he can, has had some one-on-one time with him, speaks to him on the phone, asks his daughter how he is doing when he is not there, and always remembers his birthdays.

In other words he shows respect for the fact that this is who his daughter chose even though he doesn't care for him.

Why is it so difficult for many adult children to do the same for their parents' choices? 
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