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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s the same poster that constantly interjects about her loser drug addict stepfamily.

Clearly that is not the majority of people’s experiences. Most people don’t choose to marry losers. There is a way for smart, kind, compassionate people to make this work. It takes time, dedication, and a lot of communication, but it’s possible with the right parents. [/quote]

I'm not even the PP you're talking about, I even like my stepmom, but LOLOLOLOL to everything you've written here, "the right parents" don't exist and my parents' spouses and their various first-marriage kids are just not even on my plate, sorry if you only get to see us at every 4th Thanksgiving. [/quote]

+1. Know what would be good communication? Listening to the adult children of divorce.  Listening to their perspective and their experience, even if it isn't what you want to hear.  We just do not have time for, and do not care about, your new family.  No amount of communication will change it!  And it does not mean we are not smart or kind of compassionate.  It means we have our own families and our own lives and healthy boundaries.  We don't have to cater to what you want and your fantasy that a family can magically appear just because you got married.  Our time and energy is limited and that is the bottom line here.[/quote]

Oh man 100 percent this. Especially the line that family is magically created because someone got married! [/quote]

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