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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have four kids.  
I do bedtime reading with all of them together.  We roll out sleeping bags on the floor, and I sit in the poang chair in my oldest son’s room.  After that, the younger two go to bed, and DH and I talk for a while with the older two, sometimes all together.  Sometimes 1:1.

I usually make dinner and help with homework simultaneously.  Kids don’t need you hovering over them while they do their homework, but they need you to be available if they have questions.

They do have to be more independent than some of their peers.  We taught them to ride bikes early and showed them how to get places they want to go.  They have to be responsible for a lot of their own things.  They have to help out around the house.  [/quote]

Hence my point that you cannot spend quality time one-to-one. Research from different countries points to the fact that they will be less successful, due to less individual attention and resources, than their peers from smaller families. I absolutely agree with you that they have to be more independent, regardless of their personalities. It's a survival skill; even my second child is more independent than my first. [/quote]

Why did you have more than 1 kid? That was dumb, given what you are saying. Where's the line?[/quote]

If you read the research, the line is 2. The 3rd one will be significantly worse off and the trend continues with each child. It's the opposite of dumb, two is ideal but you actually have to read the research. The two siblings get all the advantages of socialization and also an increase share of resources, including parents' attention. Again, I'm one of 4 so I speak from experience; I'm the third child. [/quote]

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