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[quote=Anonymous]OP, i'm so sorry. Just at the beginning of this journey with my dad. he fell and broke a rib and an arm and now needs a live in aide, because with the broken arm and already being fragile and wobbly he now cant shower or dress. And he is incontinent at night and needs his sheets changed by someone with a working arm every morning, or else they stay filthy.

He hates the aide and the loss of privacy but refuses to consider assisted living. I've been stepping in to help as much as I can, with doctor's appointments, dealing with the aide agency, errands, and all that but with my own kids and job it is exhausting. He is also very isolated - does not have many friends.

I desperately wish he would consider assisted living. He would have more privacy than with the live in aide but I would not have to worry as much about more falls or other medical emergencies. He refused to consider it: talks about it as me wanting to "put him into a home." Does not/will not get that this is not like a nursing home, these are nice private apartments but there are on-call and scheduled aides.

He can afford it either way, but I don't think he really gets how stressful his situation is for me and my siblings (and i am the only one who lives close, so the burden falls mostly on me).[/quote]

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