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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yep,, there is not any perfect term for this (yet). "SAHM" is not accurate since we hardly "stay at home" most days. I think "full-time mom" is better, but if it's objectionable to other moms, I'd be happy to use some other term.

Suggestions? [b]It would be so nice to have a term that doesn't diminish the real work we SAHMs do OR the real parenting of moms who do other work during the daytime.[/b]
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Yes. I haven't ever found one word that conveys all this. I usually say something more wordy that I hope sounds neutral, like, "I don't work outside the home, I run the house and the family instead."

Let's all try on both sides not to look for offense when it's just semantics.

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[b]I see that you’re trying, but that doesn’t make sense. Because plenty of women both run the house and the family and work outside the home. There is no instead - it’s not either/or.[/b][/quote]

The above is cringeworthy.

You’re really invested in the idea that you do everything SAHMs do and you’re committed to getting offended at however they describe their days. “Full time mom” is offensive because you consider yourself a full time mom even though you’re at work during the day and outsourcing childcare. Acknowledging that reality upsets you. A longer explanation that someone doesn’t work outside the home and takes care of the family also offends you because you like to think you do all of that too. You are the special snowflake with infinite hours in the day who has time to take care of kids and family full time and work full time! It must be great to have more than 24 hours in a day!

But really just be honest and say you’re not going to be happy until SAHMs day they’re lazy and do nothing all day. Anything else, you’re going to find a way to get offended about.

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You can’t be watching your kids during the day AND working. You’re just not. And that’s OK. [/quote]

I think the PP who objected was trying to say that moms who have jobs outside the home usually end up doing the exact same things that SAHMs do except for a period each day when they don't engage in childcare.  We still run the household, pay bills, take kids to activities, cook meals, clean up, grocery shop, etc., etc.

So you're either mom with a job outside the home who sends your kids to another caregiver during those hours or a mom without a job outside a home who watches your kids during the hours you might otherwise be working.  Otherwise, most of us take care of the same things.

The PP who said the response was "cringeworthy" protests too much. She gets extra penalty points for pulling out "special snowflake".

Words can be used as weapons and in these endless, numbing, stupid mommy-wars, people feel hurt, because we still, as a society, have the double-standard for moms.  No dads think about this stuff.  No one guilts dads for working.[/quote]

And we're all still waiting for what a full-time mom becomes once the kids are school-age.[/quote]

The vast majority of those women return to the workforce.  [/quote]

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