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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you all putting up with this? It is not "my house my rules" rule because people have specific dietary
needs and everyone has different eating habits, needs, sugar issues etc. Why don't they add a little fridge
to the garage and let guests bring their junk and keep it there? Otherwise, Cooler, and ice. Shop at the 
local store, keep it on the  ice. End of story. This is some kind of food horror. I can not imagine
any adult putting up with this kind of abuse. Why? Are your families so horrible you can not talk to
them straight and yet you go to visit them and pretend to be all kissy kissy? OMG. Grow up.
If not that, then excuse yourself every few hours and say, we need to go to the X and grab
few bits. If they say something  you say "your house, your rules" "my life my rules".
And just walk and feed yourself and the family between the meals.  :lol: [/quote]

LOL, I'm not putting up with it, darling. I'm bringing food. When we want and need to, we go out for meals, despite some grumbling and protests. We've stayed in hotels a few times, amid LOTS of protests. We do what we need to do.

Thing is, I found a...well, rather elegant solution where everyone wins. I get fed, MIL/FIL don't feel weird about this particular instance of food, so there's no commentary. I think this is a better solution than my kids not seeing their grandparents.

Yes, my ILs have food issues. They are weird about food. But overall, they are kind and well-meaning. This is not a mortal flaw that they had.

Some of us (not you, apparently) are good at thinking things through and engineering life a little to suit our lives and desired outcomes. [/quote]

What seems "elegant" to you seems passive-aggressive and weird to those of us who prefer a more straightforward and less exhausting approach. So they grumble and protest -- so what! Tell them they can't dictate your food schedule. If they continue to grumble and protest, either ignore it or tell them to cut it out.

If your subterfuge works for you, great, but it's not as brilliant as you think it is. Darling.[/quote]

Multiple posters across multiple pages think it is. Merry Christmas! All went well for me. [/quote]

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