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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I the PP who posted about the Aspie STBX - it only takes one person to change a dynamic, and here it was me by deciding to pursue divorce.  Amazingly, this has made our communications more civilized.  There is some sadness, but both of us know it wasn't working out and there was no more "trying" harder, so there is also relief.

I trust him generally as a father, and ongoing parenting classes and family counseling is part of our custody plan.  He is already very involved with our kids and there is zero concern for abuse.

Longer term, I can see being a resource for him - not as a wife, but as a family member.  Also - just as if we were still married, [b]he has to manage his own relationship with the kids.[/b]  If he wants a positive relationship with them when they are older and have more a choice, then he needs to work on that.  If he is a PITA, then my children have a choice of not dealing with him as a difficult old person.  I am not going to impose that guilt on them.  [/quote]

What about your guilt for forcing your kids to manage their aspie dad without you around to mediate?

Nice job throwing them under the bus...[/quote]

+1.  Seems like you're putting your children to a hard choice, especially if they have children and want the children to know their grandfather.[/quote]

This happened to us. DW's father left and then told his children, you will have to take care of your mother. DW's siblings have moved away, so we are the ones that have to look after her and make sure everything is ok. DW and her father of course have a horrible relationship now[/quote]

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