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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You will be the booty call of lots of a$$holes you will find online.  You will certainly catch HPV.

You will not get married again, unless you find a man in the same situation as you.  Your next spouse will probably be 15 years older than you or more.

You will be doing the childcaring on your own. Your kids will get messed up and need therapy. Your DH will move on and have a new family.

Your HHI will be impacted.  It is rough out there.  [/quote]

PP here. I got HPV from my husband. 50% of women get it by age 50. Not a big deal. 
Who cares about getting remarried? Never again. 
50/50 custody—I will be doing less childcare, actually 
Kids will not need therapy. They will be fine. Their life will not change that much. 
(I am messed up from parents who stayed married in a terrible marriage.)
DH is done with kids. Unlikely to remarry ever: but if he does, I am ok with it. He will get a prenup to protect kids’ assets. 
Who cares about HHI? Yes, it will be less. But I am 40% of the wealth. My quality of life will decrease. It is worth the emotional cost of staying in a marriage wasting more years that will ultimately end in divorce anyway.

You are making huge assumptions about divorce that are not universally true.[/quote]

LOL, you think you can tell in advance that they won't need therapy? What a joke.  Nobody can predict that.  And double LOL to the idea your DH and his new wife will agree to a prenup.  New wives look out for their own children first.  It is you making huge assumptions![/quote]

Exactly. That will all change. My dad and step mother ended up being married 25 years before he died. Our family ocean condo that he and my mother picked out ended up with step mother, and everything else.  Over the years he put her on the titles...so much for pre-nups.  They didn't have kids (thank God!), but she told us years later dad said if she wanted a child he'd be ok with that. He was 50 when he married her! When I told my sister she said she wouldn't have considered that child to be a sibling or family. I felt the same way and probably would have cut off my dad. Our parents had a friendly divorce, he met 2nd wife 5 years later yet it still changed the dynamics of our family in a very negative way. I understand divorce can't be avoided sometimes, but often the parents put strangers above their own blood. It happened with us, and I see it everyday. Then idiots that have more kids after already having a family do even more harm. We were all adults yet we still talk about it today, the harm that was done.  Pretending it doesn't is ridiculous. We never told my dad any of our feelings. What would it have accomplished?  [/quote]

The part about your HHI being impacted is BS. You make it work. I am a high earner, and married another high earning man. So yes, I had a few lean years, but overall bounced right back to where I was, with the exception of now paying my ex $500/month in child support. My ex on the other hand is highly unlikely to meet another woman who makes as much money that will partner him. That’s what he gets for assuming that the gravy train should also be a 50s house wife. [/quote]

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