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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn’t say it to your face but I agree with her.
- Independently wealthy and working in a meaningful job[/quote]

NP here.  I would not say anything on your face, PP, but I wonder why is that your family not meaningful to you?  Why is being with them and nurturing them not the most meaningful, loving and fulfilling job you could ever do?  If you think that only little kids need a full time mom then you are deluded and not really been involved in raising kids. You have outsourced raising your kids (if you have kids) and it was probably ok for your family.  Older kids need you differently, but not less.  But, that is a moot point - your family is not the most meaningful and time consuming thing for you - and that is your prerogative.

I find people who say or think like the PP above, very unenlightened.

OP, you have the most meaningful and wonderful job in the world. If you have the money to take care of your needs and some wants, then feel free to LIVE your life and spend time with your family.

Stay Blessed!

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it's not a job.  Everyone's kids grow up.[/quote]

Dp  Ok if it isn't a job than why do you have to pay your nannies or daycare?  Why don't they do it out of LOOOOVE for your precious snowflakes?[/quote]

What a stupid question.  No, nannies or daycare don't love your child - only you do.  That's why you'd do it out love but they only do it for the money.  You don't love any other children like your own either.    [/quote]

Stupid answer, you completely missed the PP point but proved their point.  You agree that nannies don't love your children, they get paid because it's a job. You take care of your children because you love them, meaning it isn't a job because you don't get paid to do it, you take care of your family because it's a responsibility you have, like feeding your dog or watering your garden.

When the media talks about unpaid work people do apart from their actual jobs I think some SAHM's have taken that unpaid work to mean it's a job.  It's like someone doing volunteer work and then saying that is their job.  If someone told you they worked at a hospital you would think they got paid, now if they tell you they volunteer at a hospital you think it's volunteer work for a hobby.

Nannies get paid for their job, a mother has a child as a lifestyle choice and therefore has to parent that child.  How you parent that child is again a lifestyle choice.  Who cares if you decide to WOH or SAH, who cares but don't try to make it into something more important than it is.  Have you ever seen a doctor walk around saying "I do the most important job in the world".  No but they do, because it's the truth they don't need to shout out about it.  No one believes the SAHM's, it's embarrassing when they try to argue the point, they just look stupid.  Raise your family well and people will respect that, jump up and down how raising your child is a job and people will roll their eye's at you even if it's inward.[/quote]

To the pp,

Most of the SAHM that I know do NOT jump up and down saying how they do the most important job although I would argue raising a child to be a productive, nice caring individual is the most important job whether it is done by a SAHP or nanny or daycare.  I think the tables have turned as in the past it was the working moms who felt shame for having to leave their kids and now SAHM are shamed.  If anything ( I was a SAHM) I was made to feel embarrassed or less than if I said I was one.  Some people literally turned away from me at parties as if I have nothing interesting to contribute.  Perhaps if we got away from asking that question "what do you do"  Than we would get to know the person first before making judgement.

I was asked what I did at a doctor's office but, I fail to see how this is relevant to looking at my colon.  As long as you are paid why do you need to know?[/quote]

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