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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd argue that most parents of young kids, working or no, socialize with family and other parents with similar age kids.  That's not just true of SAHMs.  People tend to flock to others like themselves.[/quote]

Really?  
I have done both, and I found it very difficult to socialize much when I was working.  I got up, did household chores, got myself ready, got kids ready, went to work, got my work done as quickly as possible so I could get out on time, typically eating lunch at my desk while writing notes and making phone calls.  Then I picked up kids, made/ate dinner, played outside for a few minutes, put them to bed, then went to bed.  I am a doctor, so I did interact with people all day long, but it wasn’t anything that I would consider “social.”  
As a SAHM, I do a ton of socializing.  Today, I will take my kids to the pool where I will sit with some mom friends and chat.  Every Friday, I have a playgroup.  Last week, my cousin and I drove out about 600 miles to see my sister and her family.  Next week, I have a morning scheduled with the spouses of the people in DH’s department to socialize (and figure out vacations over the holidays).  Later in the week, I have a three day camping trip planned with some girlfriends.  Also, 2-3 days/wk I meet four other women and we go rowing.  
I couldn’t do any of that socializing when I was working FT.  [/quote]

Do you regret not using your medical degree and training?  Serious question.[/quote]

Not really.  I volunteer at a free clinic at a homeless shelter a couple of times a week when the kids are in school.  
And I still work one weekend every other month on the inpatient unit and teach a couple of classes to the medical students when they rotate through my specialty every couple of months.  So even though I don’t work much, it isn’t like I never use it at all.  I will go back and work more when my kids are older or out of the house.  [/quote]

NP here — most of what you described above sounds so vacuous and juvenile (figuring out vacation schedules w/ the other wives? Wtf?) I can’t imagine being highly educated and fulfilled by that...[/quote]

The question was about socializing.  How do you socialize in a highly educated and fulfilling way?  [/quote]

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