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[quote=Anonymous]I was team OP until he continued on with the score keeping. It seems you are trying to punsih her somehow for her family being close and you guys doing stuff with them here adn there, but your family being an airplane ride away (and the fact that she doesn't want to go with a young toddler).

Before you give yourself all of these participation points ask yourself this: 
1. Does she make you feel forced to do her family things or is she like "my parents are going to Bush Gardens, want to go?" and you say 'yes".  Have you said "no" to some things you didn't think you would enjoy or you thought wouldn't be great with the baby? Did she fuss and moan about you not wanting to go with her family? 
2. Are you actually enjoying yourself or going through the motions of these activities? Meaning, did you have fun at Bush Gardens or other functions or do you go just to prove you are a supportive husband and get points. While it is Ok to phone it in sometimes, if that is how you approach most activities, sorry. You don't get any points. 
3. Why are you keeping score at all? Has she always refused your family? Because earlier you said she would have fun becuase she had before. So that tells me she DOES like being with them ans has, just not over Xmas this year. So why such a fuss from you? Not like she has avoided your family for 10 years or something?

The way you are sticking to this idea that she "owes" you going to your family reunion given she has valid reasons NOT to go (as confirmed by randoms on the internet here)  it just seems like you are unhappy with her in general and finding things to escalate and villianize her for. Which isn't fair to her or this situation or your DD. 
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