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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]There are plenty of divorced men who are exactly the same as you describe women here -- no desire to remarry, happy, comfortable, confident, financially secure, and don't &quot;need&quot; a woman except on their terms.

Men who &quot;want more&quot; want it on their terms, too. They want someone who is going to provide regular affection and sex. I guess some guys want someone who will also cook and clean, and thus all the grumbling from women who don't want to do that. But that, for those guys, is the term for their commitment.[/quote]

I am a divorced man and also have no desire to remarry.  My kids are great (and out of the house), I have money and want to spend as I see fit.  I have no problem having a girlfriend who feels the same way.

What is amazing to me is the number of women that have complained on DCUM about divorced men looking for a woman to cook and clean for them.  I can (and do) cook for myself (and my guests) and I have a once weekly cleaning service that does a great job keeping my apartment very clean.

I would much rather she was giving me sex than helping around the house. Or Putting Out&gt;&gt;&gt;&gt;&gt;&gt;Cleaning Up.[/quote]

I am a divorced man, and I totally concur.

My ex-wife didn't cook, clean, or do laundry in the marriage I was in. I did all that for myself when I was single; I did it when I was married; I do it now that I'm single again. Don't need anyone to do that, and don't expect it.

I sort of wonder if those complainy DCUM women are in a situation where the man was cleaning the place [i]to his own standards[/i], and after the woman moved in, she decided she wanted it done [i]to her standards[/i] but he's like "it's good enough for me, if you want to do more, do it yourself" -- and then she's all "waah he expects me to do all the cleaning." No, you are trying to assign tasks to him, and he is well within his right to refuse.[/quote]

My husband moved into my home that I owned. Therefore according to your above sexist comment he should have adapted to and accepted my standards without complaint. [/quote]

(shrug) If you made that clear up front, as you should have, then yes of course he should have. If you try to change the deal on someone after they move in, then don't be surprised if they tell you to talk to the hand.[/quote]

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