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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do all the mental labor in my house. DH handles the cars.  I’m just going to C & P a post I used a few months ago on a similar thread.

OP, I have been in your shoes. My DH has inattentive ADHD that has been severely affecting his life for his entire 55 years on this planet.

I went through a time when DD was younger when I was angry and considered leaving.

Does he have ANY good qualities?

Is he good in bed? 
Funny? 
Kind? 
A fun dad? 
Compassionate?

If you can say yes (or remember a time when the answer was yes) then maybe this is worth saving. But you will have to find a way to let go of the daily anger.

Get a house cleaner 
Order groceries online - he can pick them up 
Leave lists for errands - doc appointment - stores. Maybe one day you will be able to throw a little heart or I love you on there 
Help him with his calendar. I have to remind him to eat and feed the kid (though now at 10 she can handle that)

I also got some Zoloft which helps my anger.

If what I laid out above makes you angry/eyeroll/or seems ridiculous then maybe you should leave him.

I truly wanted it to work and now it does for us.[/quote]

Sounds like I need an upgrade from wine to Zoloft. [/quote]

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