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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Amazing: women beating each other up rhetorically over - or worse, [i]withholding approval[/i] of - a pretty benign pretty personal decision. You’re out-stupiding that guy arguing politics in the date-conservative-women thread, and that’s quite a trick.[/quote]

I have not read more than a couple of pages in this thread so I might have missed what you saw, but I have seen (and I have) argued for something more meaningful and important than a name change. Some PPs above have wrote about their husband being “superior” or “more talented” or “head of the household”. I truly hope my DDs never meet these people’s sons and daughters because this is scary and 100% against everything I believe to be right. So the argument in my case is not around a name change (I did not change my name). If your reason to change your name is because of tradition, because you want the same last name as your kids, etc. it’s fine. But if you change your name because now you are your husband’s property or because he is the head of the household, or because you would be disrespecting him otherwise, then yes... I have a problem with you and with your choice because you are modeling a scary and dangerous behavior to your kids. [/quote]

Agree.  Some of these posts have gone beyond name changing.  The idea of the man as the "head of the household" unequivocally puts him above the wife in the hierarchy of the family.  It's 2018; it's time for this harmful way of thinking to go.

It doesn't matter what occupation each spouse has or doesn't have, they should be a partnership.  They should be considered and treat each other as equals.  They should have equal responsibility and equal input into decisions in making their relationship and household work.

The my-husband-is-better-than-me lady is modeling a bad dynamic for her children, no matter how self-satisfied she chooses to present herself.[/quote]

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