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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What happened with OP?  [/quote]

They prob had the good sense to figure this out, make a new arrangement or pause the extra kid run, and quit reading. [/quote]
This is IP, I’m still here.

Still driving the kids through the week, still contemplating my next move.

The dad is at work, or at least that’s what they say, but he isn’t there in the mornings, his car is gone when the kids come out of the garage. We aren’t good friends, so I don’t know the whole story. The kids live a few houses down, but they have to cross a street and I know the mom doesn’t want them to do that, because she won’t let them to play with kids on our side of that road.

She could go and stand there while they walked across, but—

What annoys me most, other than having to lose minutes in the AM, is that the mom is in pajamas when she waves them off. Like she isn’t even ready! She’s 100% dependent on me showing up.

Yesterday morning my kids were being particularly difficult and I REALLY could have used an extra few minutes. I ended up having to leave dirty bowls and other stuff out  on the table to deal with a kid issue, and then we just had to leave, because I knew I had to pick them up. I just want MY mornings back. If I had had that five extra minutes, I could have tidied up.

And no, to those who think I’m already leaving 10 minutes early for my kids, I’m not. Let’s say bus picks at 8. I would leave with my kids at 7:55. I’m now leaving my house at 7:45. So I am losing 10 minutes. I still arrive at the bus stop at 7:55, and yes, it takes the kids time to get in and buckle. I’m not lying or exaggerating. [/quote]

She won't even let them play with your kids because they're on the other side of the road?  That's strange. I think you received a lot of really good advice here and some people have even given me the best way to cut things off. I'm sure it's hard because you feel like it's going to be awkward but trust me when I say that she's the one that should be feeling awkward.  And if you really want to be honest with her just tell her you would like to get those extra few minutes back because your kids of been a little more difficult than usual and you can't help her anymore.  Can I ask you nicely if in general you're a pushover? Or if you have a hard time and forcing things and saying no because that would explain why you're hesitant to end things with her.  [/quote]

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