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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1.  To the extent your DD was “indirectly” being mean or bullying, deal with it now.  Without whataboutisming the other kid. Full stop.

2. My FCPS kid was playing tag at recess and was tagged.  He yell “I’m going to kill you” and chased the boy who tagged him.  He was pulled from recess. Taken to the AP’s office. Held there until a parent could pick up.  Not allowed back in school until he had met with the school psychologist, and him, us and his teacher plus Admin had met with the psycychologist.

This was almost a decade ago, when he was 5 and in the first quarter of K.  The school says they had seen no other concerning behavior,  except this incident. But they had a zero tolerance policy, and it had to apply as much to a K kid playing tag as a 16 year old boy with a history of violence threatening his GF.  And had to intervene for all “threats to. Kill”— even in K, even in the middle of an active game, even for a otherwise getting 4s in behavior.  They said if he had screamed “I hate you,” he would have even pulled aside and counseled by the teacher.  My sat out the rest of recess.  But  “threats to kill” triggered a chain of events that the school said was mandatory.

The school also said his was letting him off easily.  Technically they should/ could have expelled.  But if they did, when we appealed, they were going to look like idiots, because this is a 5 year old with no record of violence.

BTW, the kid was ether scared straight or was never crooked to being with.   Went on to succeed in FCPS. Getting ready to graduate from TJ.  Introverted, gets along well with his peers, never had another discipline concern at the school, in a program to tutor little kids, etc.  he did get an ADGPHD diagnosis in MS, so maybe the impulsive piece???

But, if they could do this to my kid, you can and should expect answers and that the school follos written procedure with this kid.  Especially Sandy Hook happened after my kid was discilined.  Every school should have aThreats or Violence procedure in writing. And in the DMV, I am almost certain every school does

You do not need spzecific info about this kid. But they should be able to tell you that they treT this as a Level xxxxx offense, and are or are not following the written procedure.  And what precautions will be taken before the kid return to class (like a psychologist sign off).  You you do not get this info, call the police and let them sort it out. A kid threatened to kill your kid.  In writing. It is appropriate to ask to see the discipline policy, to be told if people are following it.

Otherwise police. [/quote]

Thanks for sharing that.

Zero tolerance is a funny thing.  It is great they took things seriously about that statement (and I'm glad it was just an expression).  I worry about zero tolerance because it gives sociopaths all the cues they need about how to avoid anyone noticing them.  [/quote]

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