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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of my SAHM friends had a cleaning lady come weekly or every-other-week to handle the major cleaning tasks.  I don't think that's unusual.

But it also seems like you are going into parenting with a very rigid idea of how things should be and already have your hackles up about what's ok for you to do vs. not in order to preserve your equal status in your relationship.  That, not a housekeeper, is IMO setting you up for trouble.  Sure, get a housekeeper and discuss plans with DH but prepared to be flexible.

Also, to keep up the equal partnership with DH, I'd recommend letting him be the one in charge of some aspect of childcare.  In our family, DH did baths from day 1.  That was his time with the kids and the area in which he got to be the expert.  I think it helped keep us from falling into an assumption that since I was a SAHM that all parenting duties were mine.[/quote]

+1 This is good insight and advice in my opinion.  It's unclear from your post if you're just talking about a housekeeper or you're considering putting more on your husband's plate because you'll be too busy engaging your child.  If it's the latter, I'd reconsider your plan.  There are lots of things to consider...who will cook meals? Are you willing to grocery shop/meal plan or is that not engaging enough for baby? Who will get up with baby in the night? A game plan is good, rigidity not so much.  For us, SAH means that my husband's life is easier and so is mine.  [/quote]

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