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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every mom (and dads too) I know is seeking some sort of balance. Those that are SAH struggle to maintain their sense of identity and not lose their minds day after day dealing with toddlers and babies (I don't know about older kids SAHPs because I am in the young kid stage myself). Those that WOH are trying to find time to have quality time with their kids and have some semblance of personal life. I don't know anyone in real life that is resentful toward other people making different choices than they are - we all know there are a million different factors that go into what decisions women make. If they are married or not, what job their spouse has and how much the spouse makes, how many kids they have, what their kids' individual needs are, how much money they make if they're working, how much day care/nannies cost, ability to work part-time or not, future career aspirations, health care options, plus individual temperament and sense of purpose and interests. [/quote]

+1  I've been SAH, WAH PT, WOH PT, and now WOH FT.  DH used to WOH FT but now mostly WAH FT. Different solutions have worked at different times.  There is no one size fits all.  Parents are different, kids are different, work situations, support, financials, health, etc. all differ between families and within a particular family over time.  It's ridiculous to judge that there is one "best" way to do it.  We're all just doing our best.

I'll admit I did used to think it was a poor choice to be a SAH parent with kids in ES and above.  Mainly because my mom did that until my siblings and I were in HS and she was depressed and lonely.  But other SAH moms aren't her and have different needs, family requirements, temperaments, social outlets, etc.  I have a number of SAH parent friends now with kids in ES-HS.  Generally, they have continued to SAH because they are dealing with some combination of child health issues, aging parent caregiving issues, a working spouse who works long/inflexible hours and/or lots of travel, desire to support an intense level of extracurriculars for their children, inability to find a job that fits their qualifications and they feel is worth it financially vs. the aspects of their SAH life they would have to give up/pay someone else to do, or they just don't need the money and enjoy their life the way it is (just as 'valid" a reason as any other!).  I figure everyone is making the best choices for them in their particular situation and if it doesn't affect me, it's none of my business![/quote]

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